How do I build the kind of relationships worth having?

References Carnegie's How to Win Friends tradition of human connection as the foundation of the gift-giving, generosity-based model Godin outlines for indispensable work

Linchpin→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People

References Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People when describing the relationship foundation and how rapport multiplies bargaining power

Bargaining for Advantage→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People

Quotes Dale Carnegie directly including Go out and get busy and builds the relationship mindset chapters on Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People

Fanatical Prospecting→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People

Cites Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People tradition of relationship-centric self-improvement in arguing that leisure-time investment in relationships belongs in the 168-hour budget alongside paid work

168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People

Invokes Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning on how human beings need a sense of being seen and mattering to another, which Johnson identifies as the core attachment need in marriage

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love→ cites →Man's Search for Meaning

Extends Brene Brown's Dare to Lead work on vulnerability and courage into the interpersonal domain, arguing boundaries are the operational form of self-respect

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself→ cites →Dare to Lead

Complements Voss's Never Split the Difference on tactical empathy in negotiation, applying similar communication moves to personal relationships and family systems

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself→ cites →Never Split the Difference

Kohn draws on Goleman's emotional intelligence framework to argue that conditional parenting damages children's emotional development, undermining the self-awareness and empathy that arise from secure, unconditional relationships

Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Maxwell's Law of Connection builds on Carnegie's foundational principles of building relationships and influencing people; both emphasize that leadership begins with genuine human connection

The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People

Extends Norman's analysis of human-technology interaction to social robots and online platforms, showing how their designed affordances create an illusion of intimacy that substitutes for real human connection

Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other→ cites →The Design of Everyday Things

Kaufman includes Carnegie's classic as foundational business reading, arguing that relationship skills are the most undervalued asset in business.

The Personal MBA→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People

Voss explains that his FBI negotiation techniques exploit the cognitive biases Kahneman identified. Understanding System 1 thinking helps negotiators use tactical empathy to influence decisions.

Never Split the Difference→ cites →Thinking, Fast and Slow

References Cialdini's persuasion research to illustrate how marketers exploit psychological vulnerabilities

Phishing for Phools→ cites →Influence

Brown discusses Goleman's EI for empathy and leadership.

Dare to Lead→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Covey discusses Carnegie's How to Win Friends as Personality Ethic.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People→ cites →How to Win Friends and Influence People