How do I handle anxiety and hard emotions?

Van der Kolk references Goleman's EI on trauma disrupting emotional regulation.

The Body Keeps the Score→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Draws on Sapolsky's Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers-style stress physiology to explain why disconnection from a partner triggers full-body threat responses, grounding EFT in biology not just psychotherapy

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love→ cites →Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: The Acclaimed Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping

Aligns with Sarno's Healing Back Pain on the mind-body connection, applying a similar somatic-emotional framework to inherited family trauma

It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle→ cites →Healing Back Pain: The Mind-Body Connection

Uses Goleman's Emotional Intelligence framework to explain how emotional literacy develops inside the therapy relationship, not through books alone

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Draws on Dweck's Mindset in discussing emotions around failure, effort, and identity, mapping the feelings that gate growth-mindset adoption

Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience→ cites →Mindset

Kohn references Damasio's neuroscience research from Descartes' Error on the integration of emotion and reason, supporting his argument that parenting approaches separating feelings from behavior misunderstand how the brain actually works

Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason→ cites →Descartes' Error

Siegel builds on Damasio's Descartes' Error framework showing that emotion and cognition are neurologically inseparable, applying this insight to explain why parents must help children integrate their emotional and rational brain systems rather than suppress feelings

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind→ cites →Descartes' Error

Clear cites Damasio's research (via The Strange Order of Things) for "Feelings of pleasure and disappointment" being the foundation of decisions — used to support his argument that emotions, not logic, drive habit change.

Atomic Habits→ cites →Descartes' Error

Clear cites Lisa Feldman Barrett's How Emotions Are Made alongside Damasio for the foundational claim that "Feelings of pleasure and disappointment" are the substrate of decisions. Barrett's constructionist theory of emotion underpins Clear's argument that emotions, not logic, drive habit change.

Atomic Habits→ cites →How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain

Seneca's letters provide the second major philosophical source for The Daily Stoic. Holiday draws on Seneca's practical advice on manageing emotions, wealth, and mortality.

The Daily Stoic→ cites →Letters from a Stoic

Voss references Goleman's emotional intelligence research to explain why reading the other party's emotions is more important than logical arguments in high-stakes negotiations.

Never Split the Difference→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Cites Goleman's Emotional Intelligence research on why IQ alone does not predict wise decision-making

The Intelligence Trap→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Cites Goleman's Emotional Intelligence work on how emotions are essential, not obstacles, to good decisions

How We Decide→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

Goleman directly extends his Emotional Intelligence framework to leadership, applying it to organisational contexts

Primal Leadership→ cites →Emotional Intelligence

References Collins' Good to Great Level 5 leadership research when discussing emotionally intelligent leadership styles

Primal Leadership→ cites →Good to Great