The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed

by Jessica Lahey

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Lahey, a teacher and parent, argues that overprotective parenting deprives children of the struggle and failure necessary to develop intrinsic motivation, resilience, and autonomy. Drawing on research in self-determination theory and growth mindset, she provides practical strategies for stepping back during the critical school years so children can learn from their own mistakes.

Published:: 2015
Pages:: 304

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In this collection, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed references 3 other books.

It draws on Mindset, Drive and The Power of Habit.

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Lahey cites Dweck's research on growth mindset, showing that praising children for being smart rather than for effort leads them to avoid challenges and give up faster on difficult tasks

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Mindset

by Carol Dweck

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Lahey draws on Pink's Drive and the distinction between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, arguing that rewards and excessive parental control undermine children's internal drive to learn

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Drive

by Daniel Pink

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Lahey references Duhigg's research on habit formation from The Power of Habit, discussing how children develop autonomous routines and self-regulation habits when parents step back from micromanageing daily tasks

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The Power of Habit

by Charles Duhigg

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